This past week, we all learnt a new term—Entanglement. I sat in amazement as we watched a Hollywood drama unfold and as I predicted at the beginning of this whole Covid-19 bonanza, the spectacle was only going to get juicier and more dramatic.
First, there was the scene with Jada Pinkett Smith. The Hollywood actress, held a conversation with her actor husband, Will Smith, on the Red Table talk, in which she opened up about her affair with a younger musician, August Alsina. She narrated how she took August under her care for counseling because he was going through a lot and how she eventually ended up in an ‘entanglement’ with him.
She gave so many excuses for getting on with the vulnerable 22-year-old, who is 21 years her junior, her major one being that she was going through a lot of hurt. That they were both looking for healing from their troubled souls.
Will Smith’s hurt was evident in the interview. He did a good job hiding it though, but it was all there for us to see. He made jokes and laughed about it which just blew his smokescreen.
She’d turned him into this sad almost pitiful character he played in the movie, In Pursuit of Happiness. I cringed when he promised to stand by her through everything and that he would always have her back.
Closely on Will Smith’s heels was this Kenyan man online ranting about his girlfriend in a video. Apparently, he had taken his girlfriend to Naivasha for a holiday but she had cheated on him in the same holiday destination. He hoped that they could work things out as he still loved her. He then panned the video to show us his car, a sleek Mercedes, and compare it to this other guy’s car, a Suzuki. He succeeded at embarrassing himself in HD in all possible ways.
What sort of lack of self-respecting men are these, my goodness? I was mad on both their behalf’s and I’m not even the man being cheated on. What exactly is there to work through in that situation? Your lack of pride and dignity? Your lack of self-respect and self-worth? How flat can you lie so that she can walk all over you more comfortably? Would you also like to help her get more men to lay the piping since you don’t seem to mind your cuckold status?
We really need to talk about valuing yourself because I’ve seen many men get humiliated in the name of love. Men, you really do deserve more than this sort of love. I fail to see the beauty in this.
There are women who have convinced some men that they are invaluable and are the ultimate prize. That the men will never get someone like them. I hope that last part is true, but not in the way that they meant it. I hope that you never have to get another manipulative, self-centered person like that because this kind of woman will mistreat you, have you eat out of her palms while promising to stick to you.
We all know of a friend with a partner who is (usually very attractive) but very controlling and always doing things which make you cringe. You wonder why he puts up with her but she defends her with words like, ‘that’s how they are’ or ‘I can handle her’ or worse ‘I know how to change her.’ There are men whose women are serial cheaters but they always defend them. Or maybe it’s not your friend, maybe you’re that guy.
There’s no one that’s irreplaceable in this world, not even you. You thought your ex was the one, the same way you think your current is the one. There’s no woman on this earth or on the next one, that’s worth you withstanding her cheating. Walk away, run even. Call a friend if you need support to walk away but never ever go back to that woman. She’s not worth it. Men need to learn their worth and never ever stay with cheating and disrespectful women. You’re a Black King. You will get back on your feet and get someone worth your time and love.